Next-Level Living: How to Transform Frustrations into Fulfillment

My mother looked like a child when she told us. Five feet tall and only thirty years old, she already had youngish looks, but when she made the announcement, something altogether different passed across her face—pure, childlike joy. My little sister and I immediately caught it. None of our friends had done this. We guessed no one in our extended family had even thought to do it.

Our parents were always a little ahead of their time—taking us to experience Asian food in our small Tennessee town, inviting a white college student to live with our family for a semester, enrolling us in geeky academic competitions. But this latest plan was in a different league. Disney World had come to the East Coast, and our parents had saved up enough money to take us there during the first summer it was open. We were going to the “Magic Kingdom,” the “Wonderful World of Disney”—just like on television!

It was 1972. I was 12 and my sister seven. The Disney budget wasn’t expansive enough for flying, so we piled into the camper and drove to Orlando, Florida, from our small town south of Knoxville. The trip would take somewhere around nine hours, enough time for us to ask at least 900 times, “Are we there yet?” We counted Volkswagen Beetles, and my parents listened to Al Green and James Brown. Rest stops, palm trees, gas stations, restaurants, a state that was home to ferocious alligators—if I hadn’t known better, I might’ve begun to believe the road trip was even better than Disney itself.

But, of course, I knew better. Disney was a magical place. A place where dreams came true and everyone became a child again. We had visited amusement parks, but Disney was billed as the ultimate, and it fast became the focal point of all our dreams. Weeks before the trip, my sister and I started planning what we would do once we got there. She imagined being greeted at the gate by Mickey and Donald and having them all to ourselves. I tried to convince her that it wouldn’t be just like the television show, but we still stayed up the whole night before we left with visions of what it would be like. The road trip to Orlando might have been exciting, but our dream of Disney was sublime—all wonder and amazement.

Once we began seeing signs for Orlando and Kissimmee, we knew we were getting close. Finally, we pulled into the park. I remember a huge sign with Mickey’s picture welcoming us to “Walt Disney World, Home of the Magic Kingdom.” Quite simply, we were overwhelmed. This was it! My sister and I raced from the camper to the shuttle to the gate. Then I realized that none of what we were about to do was free. Dad had to buy tickets, and at that time, the tickets alone cost him about one-half of his paycheck. But he didn’t balk. He paid the price of admission, and they let us in. We had now officially “arrived.”

Disney World was magnificent but not exactly what we had imagined. Mickey and Minnie were not standing at the gate to greet us. They didn’t go on any rides with us. And, as I recall, it cost money to have lunch with them. You could see them, but you had to go look for them. The rides were a thrill, just as the commercials on television had advertised, but the lines were long, and the sun blistering. From the winding river on the Jungle Cruise to the cool shadows of the Swiss Family Treehouse, we thoroughly enjoyed the adventure; however, bottom line, while Disney was exhilarating, it took some work to get out of it what we had expected.

FRUSTRATION IN THE PLACE OF OUR DREAMS

Looking back on my experience in the Magic Kingdom, I can’t help but draw some parallels with the kingdom of God. Like my dad did for us at Disney, Jesus has paid the price for us to get in the gate. Once we accept what Jesus did and choose to enter a relationship or friendship, with God, we “arrive,” having access to experiences of fulfillment that we had only dreamed were possible. The catch is that what we yearn for in life usually doesn’t come as quickly, as easily, or packaged as the “commercials” at church might cause us to believe. And, that is where frustration, disappointment and disillusionment can set in. We become confused about how to live and what to expect from life. Constantly striving to get to the place of our dreams, we fail to recognize the truth: We are already there.

Are you seeing long lines at some of the rides you want to take in life? Is the heat of some of your circumstances draining your joy? Do you feel as if you’re still waiting for the life you desire to begin? A few years ago around New Year’s, I was wrestling with these issues when I finally hit a wall. I had been asking God to take me to the “next level” in certain areas of my life, but my expectations always seemed to go unmet. Why hadn’t I experienced the changes I desired? Why did I feel so stuck? Why wasn’t I living the life I really wanted? I had waited. And waited. And I was tired of waiting.

Being a “church boy,” I knew all the churchy New Year’s Eve clichés: The battle is won in 2001. The Lord’s gonna bless you in 2002. Here comes your victor-y in 2003. The Lord’s gonna give you more in 2004. We’re coming alive in 2005. Well, almost all of those years had come and gone, and I was still waiting to get to that “next level” where my dreams would finally come true. So, I came up with my own slogan: “This is about to make me sick in 2006!”

I didn’t want to hear anything else about it being “Time for your breakthrough,” or “Your blessing’s on the way,” or “This is the year of favor,” or “This is your miracle year,” or “Hold on—you’re going to the next level!” I was tired of hearing, and saying, things like, “It’s getting ready to happen! Get ready, get ready, get ready!” It seemed I was always getting ready—getting ready to arrive, to go to a new level, to walk into my miracle. “Lord,” I said finally, “I want to live at the ‘next level,’ not spend the rest of my life waiting to reach it. Please, just get me there. I want to see something!”

You may be feeling that way right now—as if you’ve been waiting so long for fulfillment in certain areas of life you can actually feel your hair turning gray. Maybe you’re exhausted from propping up your hope only to see it remain just that—a hope. Maybe you’ve been so hurt or disappointed that you no longer know what or how to pray. If that’s you, then hold on. You may be exactly where God wants you. God works with our frustration. Often, He allows our frustration to build and come to a head just so we’ll be open to seeing things differently. That’s what happened to me.

I wish I’d thought about Disney, about how the long lines and challenges didn’t change the fact that I was in the place of my dreams. As I prayed and studied God’s Word, it dawned on me that the Next Level was the same. I don’t know why I hadn’t noticed it before. Once we choose friendship with God, our fulfillment isn’t a matter of getting to some new level in life. When we enter that friendship, we arrive. Friendship with God is the Next Level. Once we “get there,” then the journey of life in God with all of its ups and downs begins. The ups and downs don’t make us any less “there.” Consider the Israelites and their arrival in the Promised Land. Once they crossed the Jordan River, they were in the land. They still had to explore and take the land; they had some serious battles, enemies, and obstacles in front of them. But once they crossed the Jordan, they were living in the land God had promised them, the place of their dreams, the fulfillment of their destiny.

As God’s friends, we, too, are living in the place of promise. Rather than continuing to exhaust ourselves waiting for or striving to get to some new level—staying discouraged and interpreting struggle as a sign that we haven’t yet arrived—we can embrace a different perspective. It's time for a paradigm shift! If we’re already at the Next Level, then let’s quit striving in frustration to get there. Let’s dedicate ourselves to learning how to live there: exploring, growing, and journeying in friendship with God.

FULFILLMENT ON THE PATH OF LIFE

Frustration over unmet expectations can produce a few different responses. One is to give up on your dreams. Maybe in your frustration, you start to feel as if God doesn’t see you, doesn’t really love you, doesn’t have plans, or a purpose for you. You wonder if God even wants to move things ahead in your life—if He even cares.

What’s more, maybe He can’t move things ahead for you. You begin to doubt not just His love, but also His supernatural power. Finally, you say in your heart, Well, I guess it’s never going to happen. I might as well back off and let my dream die.

Another response to frustration is to grit your teeth, swallow your pain, and go back to that “waiting-to-arrive” posture. “Maybe next year it will happen,” you tell yourself. “Maybe the year after that. Maybe after I get married.” You continue to bear up under disappointment when things don’t work out as you’d hoped, dreamed, or planned. You put your faith back in the language of those cliched New Year’s promises and cover your doubts, fears, and hurts with misplaced hope. Waiting on life to happen, you go on missing out on life; fixated on the destination, you miss the journey.

But there is a third response to the frustrations of life: Learn to fully experience your journey with God right now. Journeying in friendship with God is what living at the Next Level is all about. By taking your mind off of getting to some new level in the future and learning to live at the real Next Level now, you will discover, first, that you don’t have to give up on your dreams. Delay doesn’t mean denial. God does have plans for you to “see something.” He wants you to experience the dreams and desires that He has placed in your heart. As you keep walking in friendship with Him, embracing the journey as it unfolds, you will come into His plans for you in the right way at the right time.

Additionally, you will find that you don’t have to burn up your energy anticipating some mysterious future moment when your breakthrough will come and all your dreams will be realized. You can experience your breakthrough right now as you learn to walk with God; everything you need and long for can be found in Him. This is how we transform our life’s frustrations into fulfillment: As we enjoy God, explore the Next Level, and discover the life that God has planned for us, we learn that there is something even better than what we were trying to achieve. And, that is simply living in love with God.

In the Psalms, David wrote, “You will make known to me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; In Your right hand there are pleasures forever” (Psalm 16:11). In the Bible, the “right hand” is a symbol of friendship. Experiencing the unpredictable, sometimes arduous, sometimes exhilarating path of life in our Friend’s presence—not at some future time, but right now—is what brings ultimate fulfillment.

UNDERSTANDING THE JOURNEY

The apostle Peter was Jesus’ right-hand man, appointed as a key leader of the early church, which exploded on the scene in Jerusalem at Pentecost nearly two months after Jesus’ ascension into heaven. A dozen or so years later, Herod cracked down on the church, killed the apostle James, and threw Peter in prison, slapping him with a trial date, which was basically as good as a death sentence. While Peter sat chained between two guards in a prison awaiting his fate, the believers whom he led prayed for his safety night and day.

God’s plans for Peter differed from Herod’s. In a dramatic prison break, Peter was escorted out of his cell by an angel of the Lord, led back into the city of Jerusalem, and set free. But even while he was sitting chained in prison, uncertain whether he would live or die, Peter was living at the Next Level. He was still God’s friend, God’s chosen leader. Someone could have looked at Peter and said, “Man, that guy must’ve really messed up. He can’t be a friend of God.” But Peter was an intimate friend of God. Right there in the most constraining place he could’ve landed—a prison—Peter was on the path of life, journeying in friendship with God.

Even while our journeys may include times of limitation or immobility, we are still very much in motion. Even in “prison,” we are growing, making progress, walking with God on the path of life, and just as capable of experiencing joy, peace, and fulfillment as at any other point. Prison was merely a phase of Peter’s journey, and our current limitations represent only one aspect of the whole of ours. One’s journey with God includes a wide variety of terrains and experiences: highs and lows, mountains and valleys, struggles and rest periods, and times of fatigue and exhilaration. God uses all of these to draw us to Himself and to fulfill the purpose and plans for which He made us.

Certain heart attitudes keep us from falling back into old patterns of thinking:

• A heart for friendship with God
• A heart of gratitude to God
• A heart of expectancy toward God
• A heart to seek God

In different phases of our journey, some of these heart attitudes may stand out more prominently than others, but all operate together to keep us on the path God prepared for us before we were born. God told the prophet Jeremiah, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you” (Jeremiah 1:5). God knows us, and, as He later prophesied through Jeremiah, He knows the plans that He has for us—plans to give us “a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11, NKJV). Maintaining healthy heart attitudes based on God’s truth will help us walk in those plans, for as in any physical journey, the condition of a person’s heart determines his or her level of endurance. 

PACKING UP OUR TENTS

A lot hangs on our choice to embrace our journey with God and learn to live at the Next Level. If we stick with our old “waiting-to-get-there” mind-set, then not only will we stay exhausted with frustration, but we will also play right into our enemy’s hand. Satan’s goal is to keep us believing we haven’t arrived. He knows that if we see the truth about where we are in God, then our actions and life choices will change. We will—today—begin taking the land and seizing the opportunities in front of us.

If I had refused to believe I was at Disney World just because I hadn’t seen Mickey or Minnie, then I might’ve lingered just inside the gate, wondering when I was going to get to the real Disney. Meanwhile, I would have missed the experience of the park altogether. If the Israelites, once they had crossed the Jordan, had refused to believe they were in the land just because they were still camping in tents, then they might’ve stayed in one spot and never gotten up to take the cities God had promised to give them (Deuteronomy 6:10-12).

The same scenario could happen to you. If you get stuck waiting on life at some new level to begin, then you might settle for tents and miss the experience of your cities. But, once you realize that, as God’s friend, you’ve already reached the Next Level, you will move out into life and put your faith in the God of Right Now. You’ll say, “Lord, I may not be seeing all of my dreams come to pass yet, but I know where I am; I refuse to let the enemy get me off the path of life. I won’t turn back. I won’t stop. I’m going to enjoy our friendship and keep on walking until I experience all that you have for me. Waiting to get there is over. I’m at the Next Level right now, and I’m ready to learn how to live here!”

The enemy hates that kind of faith and determination. He hates your decision to embrace your journey with God. But I thank God the enemy is already defeated, and we serve a God who had plans for us before we were conceived. God wants to reveal His plans and teach us how to journey with Him, so let’s make a choice. Let’s entrust our issues and irritations to Him, pack up these tents, and move out into life. An incredible adventure awaits us if we’ll just get moving. Let’s discover what’s out there at the Next Level.

This article was extracted from Issue 4 (Winter 2021) of the AVAIL Journal. Claim your free annual subscription here.

This article was written by Courtney McBath

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Courtney McBath is the Senior Founding Pastor of Calvary Revival Church (CRC) in Norfolk, Virginia. He also serves as the leader and founder of Calvary Leadership Network, a group of pastors and leaders serving the church globally. He is a teacher, mentor, coach and a global pastor.